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For a long time, female sexual pleasure was not just considered an optional choice, but something forbidden and certainly lascivious. Even now, in many traditional cultures, it remains a taboo subject, not to be openly discussed. In some parts of the world, barbaric practices of female genital mutilation still persist, maiming and killing girls and women. The unofficial celebration of female orgasm provides an opportunity for women and men to learn more about the female body and pleasure.
The History of International Female Orgasm Day
It all began in Brazil with a member of the city council from the city of Esperantina – José Arimateia Dantas Lacerda. According to his account, he realized that his partner hadn’t experienced an orgasm, so he sat down and drafted a proposal. The celebration called “Dia do orgasmo feminino” was only approved by the council a few years later, in 2006, after overcoming several vetoes.
This holiday is not just about female orgasm. It is about women’s right to genuine pleasure in intimate interactions with their partners. It’s about being subjects rather than objects in sexual relationships. After all, at least 80% of heterosexual women are faking orgasms, and 5-10% of women have never experienced it at all!
Why Women Fake Orgasms
There are several reasons, and sometimes they can be combined:
- Concern for their partner’s feelings;
- Fear and insecurity, negative previous experiences.
- Elevating arousal to reach a genuine orgasm more quickly;
- Desire to end sex.
Approximately 70% of women achieve orgasm exclusively through clitoral stimulation. However, due to the widespread myth that a “real” woman should climax from penetration, women often fake orgasms – accounting for 80% of all simulations. They may also fake it during oral sex when reaching the peak becomes challenging, but they don’t want to upset their partner. Additionally, the clitoris is a sensitive organ, and prolonged or intense stimulation can be uncomfortable or even painful.
Women may find it difficult to talk to men about orgasms. They may feel embarrassed or not fully trust their partner, especially at the beginning of a relationship. Moreover, admitting that not all previous orgasms were genuine may make them prefer silence… and keep faking.
But maybe it’s worth trying? We wish all women to have an Orgasm Day, every day.
For more about female orgasms, read the article: Top 5 Facts About Female Orgasm.
